This is an interesting question that could only come from someone who’s studied game. Both value and comfort are GOOD things. So there is no such thing as too much of either… the issue comes from ratio, as I explain in this video.
There are some really strange ideas floating around about self-amusement. Let me clear some things up for you. Firstly, self-amusement is not inherently attractive… yes I said it. Self-amusement is mainly just a gimmick designed to eliminate a few beginner mistakes.
Lots of guys have a preference for a specific type of game. And that’s a GOOD thing. You should do what you are best and, happiest doing, and get results from. However, there are some very important reasons for doing other forms of game and learning other skills.
When you first approach a girl, you’re a stranger. Often, it’s unclear, especially during daygame, why you’re approaching and talking to her. The idea behind premise is to give her a sense, ideally in the most subtle way possible, that you’re there because you’re interested in her sexually.
Ahh… text flaking. Probably the thing that has caused more guys to quit game than any other. And the fact is, you’ll always get it to a certain degree… but you’ll get exponentially more flaking if you suck at text game. So here’s one step in how to not suck at it!
Set yourself up for success, not failure. One of the main reasons why guys get blown out is because their approach angle is wrong.
One of the most common issues you’ll run into in nightgame is that of the girl’s friends taking her away from you. Typically she would prefer to stay, but social appearances dictate that she go with them.
I was recently asked “why” they would take her away after leaving the two of you to talk in the first place. Here is my answer.
I’ve gotten this question a lot over the years from various guys who are tired of dealing with flaky girls and are looking for an alternative approach, or from new guys starting out. It really does hit on a fundamental paradox in game, which is that on one hand you need to be able to lead and direct the interaction, but on the other hand, you’re better off is she’s chasing.